6已婚的弟兄不必学习怎样受苦,反而应该看见,他这个丈夫已经在基督里被了结了。现今,他活著应该是一个被了结的丈夫,简简单单的享受基督的了结。然后他会对妻子说,『亲爱的,我并不想作个好丈夫,仁慈温柔的丈夫;我要作个被了结的丈夫。我越愿意经历基督的了结,就越能作个好丈夫,因为这样,基督就会在我里面活著。祂在我里面活著,就会经过我来作你的丈夫。』跟从主就是有分于祂,享受祂,经历祂,并让祂成为我们的所是。我们要这样跟从主,就当否认己。我们需要将基督在十字架上所完成的了结,应用在我们身上。这意思是说,背起自己的十字架就是将基督的了结应用在我们身上。我们这样作的时候,就成为一个被除掉的人,而不是一个受苦的人。这样,我们就能见证,『我已经与基督同钉十字架;现在活著的,
6A married brother does not need to learn how to suffer. Rather, he needs to realize that, as a husband, he has already been terminated in Christ and that now he should live as a terminated husband, simply enjoying Christ’s termination. Then he may say to his wife, “Dear, I am not trying to be a good husband, to be a kind and gentle husband. I am here as a terminated husband. The more I am willing to experience Christ’s termination, the better I shall be as a husband, for then Christ will live in me. As He lives in me, He will be your husband through me.” To come after the Lord is to partake of Him, enjoy Him, experience Him, and let Him become our very being. In order to come after the Lord in this way, we need to deny ourselves. We need to apply to ourselves the termination Christ has accomplished on the cross. This means that to bear our cross is to apply Christ’s termination to ourselves. When we do this, we become a crossed-out person, not a suffering person. Then we can testify, “I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me