9在亚当和夏娃的事例中,我们看见这对配偶同有一个源头、一个性情、一个生命、和一个生活。在以赛亚书、耶利米书、以西结书、以及何西阿书里,我们看见神渴望得著一个妻子与祂同活。神渴慕过婚姻生活,使神性与人性同活;但祂的子民令祂失望。然而在雅歌里,我们看见真实的婚姻生活。这样一部罗曼史的秘诀是甚么?秘诀是妻子不但必须接受丈夫作她的生命和生活,也必须接受丈夫作她的人位。在一九七二年非正式的训练中,我们曾指出在雅歌里,当寻求主的人经过生命长大的各种阶段时,主用好几种比喻说出她的特征。祂用的第一个比喻是一群骏马。(一9。)马是强壮、有力、满了个性的,并且寻求自己确定的目标。逐渐的,藉著爱的工作,这寻求者从一群骏马变成馨香、美丽、且盛开的百合花。(二2。)寻求者成了没有意志、情感、或人位的百合花。然后,她成了柱子。虽然柱子是指坚固的东西,但寻求者被比喻为烟柱,(三6,)不是大理石柱。她是稳固的屹立在宇宙中的烟柱;但她非常有弹性。我喜欢看见年轻的妻子作烟柱,说,『我的意志在我丈夫的心里,我的情感在他里面,我的心思也在他的头脑里。我只是一根烟柱。』烟柱没有自己的人位;没有心思、情感和意志。丈夫对这样的妻子说,『我们走罢,』她会立即顺从。反之,丈夫若说,『我们永远留在这里罢,』也不会有问题。然而,我所得知关于年轻夫妇的消息,与此完全不同。弟兄若说,『我们走罢,』妻子就拒绝。丈夫若说,『我们留下罢,』妻子就坚持要走。她仍是法老车上套的埃及野马。这样的姊妹也许寻求主,但她拖著法老。她需要卸下东西。如何卸下?乃是藉著失去她的心思、意志和情感,而成为烟柱。在雅歌里的寻求者,至终成为载著她良人的华轿。(三9。)她不再有自己的人位;她的良人─主基督,如今是她里面的人位。她自己是带著基督人位的华轿。后来,这寻求者成为生长东西以满足她良人的园子。(四12~13。)最终,她成为城,(六4,)就是新耶路撒冷,(启二一2,)没有她自己的人位,里面却有基督刚强的人位。赞美主!这就是神圣的罗曼史。
9In the case of Adam and Eve we saw that the couple had one source, one nature, one life, and one living. In Isaiah, Jeremiah, Ezekiel, and Hosea we saw that God desires to have a wife who will live together with Him. God longs to have a marriage life, to have divinity live together with humanity. But His people failed Him. In Song of Songs, however, we see the genuine marriage life. What is the secret of such a romance? The secret is that the wife must take her husband not only as her life and her living, but as her person. As we pointed out during the informal training of 1972, the Lord used several figures of speech to characterize His seeker in Song of Songs as she passed through the various stages in the growth of life. The first figure He used was of a company of horses (S. S. 1:9). Horses are strong, energetic, full of personality, and seek a definite goal of their own. Gradually, by the working of love, this seeker was changed from a company of horses to a lily that was fragrant, beautiful, and blossoming (S. S. 2:2). The seeker became a lily without will, emotion, or person. Eventually, she became a pillar. Although the word pillar denotes something strong, the seeker was likened to a pillar of smoke (S. S. 3:6), not a pillar of marble. She was a pillar of smoke that stood erect and steadfast in the universe; yet she was very flexible. I like to see young wives being pillars of smoke saying, “My will is in my husband’she art, my emotion is in him, and my mind is in his head. I am simply a pillar of smoke.” A pillar of smoke has no person of its own; it has no mind, emotion, and will. When the husband says to such a wife, “Let us go,” she will instantly obey. On the contrary, if the husband should say, “Let us stay here for eternity,” there will be no problem. However, the reports that I receive about the young couples are absolutely different from this. If the brother says, “Let us go,” the wife refuses. If the husband says, “Let us stay,” the wife insists on going. She is still a wild horse from Egypt pulling Pharaoh’s chariot. Such a sister may be seeking the Lord, but she carries Pharaoh. She needs to be unloaded. How? By losing her mind, will, and emotion and becoming a pillar of smoke. The seeking one in Song of Songs eventually becomes a palanquin to carry her beloved (S. S. 3:9). She no longer has a person of her own; her beloved, Christ the Lord, is now the Person within her. She herself is a palanquin bearing the Person of Christ. Later, this seeker becomes a garden growing something to satisfy her beloved (S. S. 4:12-13). Finally, she becomes the city (S. S. 6:4), the New Jerusalem (Rev. 21:2), without any person of her own, but with the strong Person of Christ within her. Praise the Lord! This is the holy romance.