7让我们再说到婚姻生活的例证。丈夫夜里晚归的确是不对的。然而，妻子在这事上对待丈夫的方式也许是错误、不义的。她也许全然不公平，定罪他并将一切都归咎于他。她从不定罪自己，或责备自己。她的态度也是错误的，并且她与丈夫争辩是不义的。可能丈夫只错了百分之十，但妻子定罪他，好像他完全错了。所以，她对丈夫的态度和行为百分之九十是不义的。每当丈夫和妻子争吵的时候，双方都是不义的。丈夫会宣告他是对的，他的妻子完全错了。妻子会坚持丈夫完全错了，只有她是对的。结果，丈夫和妻子都成为不义的。倘若妻子开始运用她的灵并呼求主耶稣的名，她就会领悟，她在与丈夫的关系上不公平、不公义。然后她会对自己说，『不错，我的丈夫在某个程度是不对的。但我对他责备太过。不但如此，我与他争辩并定罪他，乃是错误的。现在我看见他只错了一点，但我错得比他更多。我的不义至少是我丈夫的两倍。』这位姊妹藉著呼求主名领悟她的情况，她自然而然就成为公义的，因为基督成了她的公义。每当人与人之间起了分争或争辩的时候，没有一方是公义的。例如，假定召会中一位长老与一位弟兄起了争辩。长老没有运用他的灵呼求主的名，反而为自己辩护。在这样的事例中，他就不是公义的。不但如此，他也许对其他的长老说，『那位弟兄总是把死亡带到聚会中。』后来，这位长老运用他的灵并呼求主的名，他就领悟自己是不义的。他也可能领悟那位有难处的弟兄并不常在聚会中散布死亡。然而，这位长老曾告诉别人，这位弟兄总是把死亡带到召会的聚会中。所以，这位长老领悟自己是不义的，就需要向其他的长老认罪，并且说，『弟兄们，为著我论到这位弟兄的话，请你们赦免我。我已向主认罪，祂已赦免我。现在我也向你们认罪。照我所记忆的，这位弟兄只有在一个场合里把死亡带到聚会中。但我却说他常常这样作。我不公平，我也不公义。』
7Let us again refer to an illustration from married life. It certainly is wrong for a husband to come home late at night. Nevertheless, a wife may be wrong and unrighteous in the way she deals with her husband concerning this matter. She may be altogether unfair, condemning him and putting all the blame on him. She never condemns herself or blames herself. Her attitude is also wrong, and she is unrighteous in arguing with her husband. Even though the husband may be just ten percent wrong, the wife condemns him as if he were completely wrong. Therefore, her attitude and behavior toward her husband are ninety percent unrighteous. Whenever a husband and wife exchange words, both parties are unrighteous. The husband will declare that he is right and that his wife is completely wrong. The wife will insist that the husband is wholly wrong and that only she is right. As a result, both the husband and the wife become unrighteous. Should the wife begin to exercise her spirit and call on the name of the Lord Jesus, she will realize that she has been unfair and unrighteous in relation to her husband. Then she will say to herself, “Yes, my husband is wrong to a certain extent. But I put too much blame upon him. Furthermore, I am wrong to argue with him and to condemn him. Now I see that he is wrong only to a small degree, but that I am much more wrong than he is. I am at least twice as unrighteous as my husband is.” When the sister realizes her situation by calling on the name of the Lord, she spontaneously becomes righteous, for Christ becomes righteousness to her. Whenever there is strife or argument between people, none of the parties involved is righteous. For example, suppose an elder and a brother in the church have an argument. Instead of exercising his spirit to call on the name of the Lord, the elder stands up for himself. In such a case, he is not righteous. Furthermore, he may say to the other elders, “That particular brother always brings death into the meetings.” Later, when this elder exercises his spirit and calls on the name of the Lord, he realizes that he was unrighteous. He may also realize that the brother in question rarely spreads death in the meetings. The elder, however, has told others that this brother always brings death into the meetings of the church. Therefore, this elder, realizing that he was not righteous, will need to confess to the other elders and say, “Brothers, I ask you to forgive me for what I said about this brother. I have made confession to the Lord, and He has forgiven me. Now I also make confession to you. According to my memory, only on one occasion has this brother brought death into the meetings. But I said that he always does this. I was not fair, neither was I righteous.”