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哥林多前书生命读经 · 第42篇

对付婚姻的生活(二)

Dealing with marriage life (2)
1读经:哥林多前书七章一至四十节。在婚姻生活中有许多祝福。然而,在林前七章,保罗无意著重婚姻祝福的一面。反之,他主要的是强调与婚姻生活有关的难处和分心的事。他这样强调,是因为他在这里是答覆哥林多人所题的问题。如我们所指出的,富有思想、崇尚哲学的人有许多关于婚姻的问题。保罗要答覆哥林多信徒所题的问题,就说明好些关于婚姻生活的基本原则。查考这些原则是有益的,因这些原则有助于答覆我们的问题,也带我们享受婚姻生活中的祝福。
1Scripture Reading: 1 Cor. 7:1-40 In married life there are many blessings. However, in 1 Corinthians 7 it is not Paul’sin tent i on to stress the blessed side of marriage. On the contrary, his emphasis is mainly on the troubles and distractions related to married life. The reason for this emphasis is that here he is answering questions raised by the Corinthians. As we have pointed out, thoughtful, philosophical people have many questions about marriage. To answer the questions raised by the Corinthian believers, Paul sets forth a number of basic principles concerning married life. It is profitable to consider these principles, for they help to answer our questions and also bring us into the enjoyment of blessing in our married life
2在前一篇信息里我们指出,这些基本原则包含以下各点:男不近女倒好;(1;)专心祷告;(5上;)不给撒但机会;(5下;)在于我们从神得来的恩赐;(7;)保持不结婚;(8,26~27,40上;)若不能自制,倒不如嫁娶;(9;)维持婚姻,叫不信的一方得救;(13~14,;)让不信的一方离去,叫信的一方活在平安里;(15;)留在我们蒙召时的身分里;(20,24;)寻求为著主的事罣虑,没有其他的罣虑;(32,34;)殷勤服事主,没有分心的事;(35;)叫自己的童身女儿出嫁是好,不叫她出嫁更是好;(36~38;)丈夫死后,妻子可以自由嫁在主里的人。(39。)我们读本章并留意这些原则时,也需要摸著作者的灵。保罗的灵在他所写的话里面得著发表。为这缘故,我们不但该熟悉原则,也该摸著使徒的灵。我们若不知道作者在本章里的灵,就指明我们不彀充分思考所有的原则。我们已指出,林前七章是解答哥林多那些崇尚哲学的信徒写给保罗的问题。本章论到许多点,每一点都是解答哥林多人所问的问题。因此,本章中许多点指明,哥林多的信徒的确有许多关于婚姻生活的问题。
2In the foregoing message we pointed out that these basic principles include the following: it being good for a man not to touch a woman (v. 1); devoting ourselves to prayer (v. 5a); giving no occasion to Satan (v. 5b); the gift we have received from God (v. 7); remaining unmarried (vv. 8, 26-27, 40); better to marry if we lack self-control (v. 9); remaining in marriage so that the unbelieving party may be saved (vv. 13-14, 16); allowing the unbelieving party to leave so that the 16 believing party may live in peace (v. 15); remaining in the status of our calling (vv. 20, 24); seeking to care for the things of the Lord free from other cares (vv. 32, 34); waiting on the Lord without distraction (v. 35); a virgin giving his virginity in marriage doing well, and one deciding to keep his virginity doing better (vv. 36-38); a wife being free, after the death of her husband, to be married to another in the Lord (v. 39). As we read this chapter and pay attention to these principles, we also need to touch the spirit of the writer. Paul’s spirit is expressed in what he writes. For this reason, we should not only be familiar with the principles, but also touch the apostle’s spirit. If we do not know the spirit of the writer in this chapter, this indicates that we have not adequately considered all the principles. We have pointed out that 1 Corinthians 7 is an answer to questions written to Paul by the philosophical believers at Corinth. In this chapter many points are covered, each of which is an answer to a question asked by the Corinthians. Thus, the many points in this chapter indicate that the Corinthian believers certainly had many questions concerning their married life.
3绝对为著主没有甚么比婚姻生活更代表人的生活。就一面说,人的生活就是婚姻生活。我们的工作和日常生活的事,都与婚姻生活有关。因此我们可以说,婚姻生活代表人的生活。
3ABSOLUTE FOR THE LORD Nothing is more representative of human life than married life. In a sense, human life is simply married life. The matters involving our work and daily living are related to married life. For this reason, we may say that married life represents human living
4保罗答覆哥林多人所题关于婚姻生活的问题时,很简单、直接、坦白并真实。他没有说任何模棱两可的事,或者说话耍手腕。不但如此,他乃是照著他基督徒的经历答覆所有的问题。这就是为甚么他在七节说,『我愿意众人都像我一样。』在八节他宣告:『若他们常像我就好。』这指明保罗是照著他在为人和生活里的所是,答覆关于婚姻的问题。因此,我们若要对本章有透彻的领会,就需要问保罗是为著甚么而活。保罗是一个绝对的人。他的灵绝对为著主和祂的经纶。我们读本章时,就看见保罗渴望所有的信徒都效法他,跟从他这样为著主。这里保罗似乎是说,『我绝对为著主,我盼望你们都是这样。在这事上我要你们都跟从我。』
4In answering the questions raised by the Corinthians concerning married life, Paul was simple, direct, frank, and genuine. He did not say anything ambiguous or speak in a political way. Furthermore, he answered all the questions according to his Christian experience. This is why he says in verse 7, “I wish all men to be even as myself.” In verse 8 he declares, “It is good for them if they remain even as I.” This indicates that Paul answers the questions concerning marriage according to what he is in his being and living. Thus, if we would have a thorough understanding of this chapter, we need to ask what Paul lived for. Paul was an absolute person. His spirit was absolute for the Lord and His economy. As we read this chapter, we realize that Paul’s aspiration was for all the believers to imitate him and follow him in being for the Lord. Here Paul seems to be saying, “I am absolute for the Lord, and I hope that you will all be the same. In this matter I want you all to follow me
5不发起任何事情保罗不但绝对为著主,他也完全与神是一。因为保罗与神是一,他答覆问题的方式,是要叫哥林多人得著帮助,在每一种环境、光景、和情况中与神是一。我们所以知道这点,是因为保罗答覆某些问题时,遵守不发起任何事情或改变任何事情的原则。他向哥林多人清楚指明,他们不该发起任何行动或以任何作法改变自己的身分。我们若改变自己的身分或发起任何行动,就指明我们没有与神是一,我们不愿与祂是一。我们若喜欢与神是一,并且实际的与祂是一,我们就不会发起任何改变,尤其与婚姻生活有关的改变。反之,我们的态度将是:『神若要我结婚,就让祂发起这事,并作成这事。神若不要我结婚,祂必然会给我保持不结婚所需要的恩赐。』这恩赐会产生
5NOT INITIATING ANYTHING Paul was not only absolute for the Lord, but he was also absolutely one with God. Because Paul was one with God, he answered the questions in such a way that the Corinthians would be helped to be one with Him in every circumstance, condition, and situation. We know this by the fact that in answering certain questions Paul followed the principle of not initiating anything or changing anything. He made it very clear to the Corinthians that they should not initiate any action or change their status in any way. If we change our status or initiate any action, this is an indication that we are not one with God and that we do not want to be one with Him. If we like to be one with God and are actually one with Him, we shall not initiate any change, especially change related to married life. On the contrary, our attitude will be, “If God wants me to marry, let Him initiate it and work it out. If God does not want me to marry, surely He will grant me the gift I need to remain unmarried.” This gift will produce a willingness, even a desire, to remain
6一种愿意,甚至一种愿望,要保持不结婚;也会供应能力,使人保持单身。然而,没有人该凭自己作这样的决定。必须是神发起,并且是神给我们愿望和能力,保持不结婚。保罗没有结婚;然而,他不是凭自
6unmarried; it also will supply the ability to remain single. However, no one should make such a decision on his own. It must be God who takes the initiative and who grants us both the desire and the gift to remain unmarried. Paul was not married. However, he did not make this decision on his own. Rather, it
7己 作这决定。这乃是神所发起的,并且神给保罗所需要的愿望和能力。这是他从主得来的恩赐。我再说,无论我们该不该结婚,我们都不该发起任何事情。我们必须将这事交给主。
7was initiated by God, and God gave Paul the necessary desire and ability. This was the gift he received from the Lord. To repeat, whether we should marry or not, we should not initiate anything. We must leave this matter to the Lord
8在林前七章保罗清楚告诉哥林多人,他们不该改变自己的身分,或发起任何事情。在十二节他说,『倘若某弟兄有不信的妻子,妻子也情愿和他同住,他就不要离弃妻子。』在十三节保罗对信主的妻子说同样的事:『妻子有不信的丈夫,丈夫17也情愿和她同住,她就不要离弃丈夫。』在十七至二十四节我们看见,我们该留在我们蒙召时的身分里。在十七节保罗有力的嘱咐我们要留在蒙神呼召时婚姻的身分里:『只要照主所分给各人的,和神所召各人的而行。』在二十节保罗继续说,『各人在甚么身分里蒙召,仍要留于这身分。』然后在二十四节他下结论:『弟兄们,你们各人是在甚么身分里蒙召,仍要与神一同留在这身分里。』这指明信徒必须与神是一,并且无论在甚么情况里都有神与他们同在。这些例子指明保罗完全与神是一,并且他要哥林多的信徒与神是一,不要发起任何改变或行动。然而,哥林多的信徒与保罗很不相同。他们没有完全与主是一,反倒运用自己的智慧与哲学。他们用哲学研究每一件事,包括婚姻。有些人以为不结婚较好,而有些人坚决选择婚姻生活。哥林多人对于婚姻所想并所说的,指明他们中间有许多事是人发起的。所以,保罗答覆他们的问题时有力的指明,在婚姻的事上我们不该发起任何事情。在本章我们看见保罗的灵完全与神是一。保罗不愿意改变任何事情或发起任何事情。为这缘故,他能告诉哥林多人,就著婚姻而论,不要改变他们的身分。蒙主呼召时已婚的人,就该维持婚姻。这原则甚至适用于与不信者的婚姻。已婚的信徒不该发起任何改变。反之,整件事情该交给神。无论不信的一方去或留,信的人都该从主接受这情况。一切都在于神,在于祂所安排的情况、环境和光景。
8In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul makes it very clear to the Corinthians that they should not change their status or initiate anything. In verse 12 he says, “If any brother has an unbelieving wife and she consents to dwell with him, let him not leave her.” In verse 13 Paul says the same thing to a believing wife: “And a wife who has an unbelieving husband and he consents to dwell with her, let her not leave her husband.” In verses through 24 we see that we should remain in the status of our calling. In verse 17 Paul strongly charges us to remain in the state of marriage in which God has called us: “Only as the Lord has allotted to each one, as God has called each one, so let him walk.” In verse 20 Paul goes on to say, “Each one, in the calling in which he was called, in this let him remain.” Then in verse 24 he concludes, “Each one, brothers, in what state he was called, in this let him remain with God.” This indicates that the believers must be one with God and have God with them in their situation, no matter what it may be. These examples indicate that Paul was absolutely one with God and wanted the Corinthian believers to be one with Him and not to initiate any change or action. The Corinthian believers, however, were very different from Paul. Instead of being absolutely one with the Lord, they exercised their wisdom and philosophy. They philosophized about everything, including marriage. Some thought that it was better not to get married, whereas others strongly preferred married life. The way the Corinthians thought and spoke about marriage indicated that among them there was a great deal of human initiative. Therefore, in answering their questions, Paul indicates strongly that in the matter of marriage we should not initiate anything. In this chapter we see that Paul’s spirit was absolutely one with God. Paul was not willing to change anything or to initiate anything. This was the reason he could tell the Corinthians not to change their status as far as marriage was concerned. Those who were married when called by the Lord should remain married. This principle applies even to marriage with an unbeliever. The married believer should not initiate any change. On the contrary, the entire matter should be left with God. Whether the unbelieving party remains or leaves, the believing one should take the situation from the Lord. Everything depends on God and on the situations, circumstances, and conditions arranged by Him.
9和保罗同样绝对的信徒应当能说,『关于婚姻生活的情况或环境,我没有难处。我不信的配偶若同我留下,我赞美主。我的配偶若宁愿离去,我也从主接受这点。无论如何,我都没有问题,我不和主相争或同祂挣扎。我领悟一切都在于神。我不要发起任何事情。』这是绝对为著神并与祂是一之人的态度。这是不发起任何事情或想要改变任何事情的人。保罗甚至将这原则应用到蒙主呼召时作奴仆的人身上。『你是一个奴仆蒙召么?不要在意;但即使你能自由,也宁可仍用奴仆的身分。』(21。)这话指明奴仆不该寻求改变自己的身分。反之,他该用他作奴仆的身分荣耀神,就是为著神的荣耀与神一同留在这身分里。即使他能自由,也该仍作奴仆。他不该想要改变任何事情。然而,神若安排环境,使他脱离作奴仆的光景,他也不该抗拒这样的改变,坚持仍作奴仆。神既安排了改变,他就该接受。无论如何,他的态度都该是,他与神是一。看见在一切环境、情况、和光景里都绝对与主是一的这个原则,是很要紧的。我们读林前七章时若留意这原则,就会看见保罗完全与主是一,在他的教导和答覆中,他自然而然、不知不觉就表达这样绝对的灵。因为保罗有这种灵,他就能清楚、绝对的答覆哥林多人的问题,帮助他们也在他们的情况里与神成为一。
9A believer who is absolute in the same way Paul was should be able to say, “I do not have any problem with the situation or circumstances related to my married life. If my unbelieving spouse remains with me, I praise the Lord. If my spouse prefers to leave, I also take this from the Lord. In either case, I do not have any problems, and I do not fight with the Lord or struggle against Him. I realize that everything depends on God. I do not want to initiate anything.” This is the attitude of a person who is both absolutely for God and one with Him. This is a person who does not initiate anything or try to change anything. Paul even applies this principle to those who were slaves when they were called by the Lord. “Were you a slave when called? Let it not concern you; but, if even you are able to become free, use it rather” (v. 21). This word indicates that a slave should not seek to change his status. Instead, he should use his status as a slave to glorify God, that is, to remain in it with God for God’s glory. Even if he is able to become free, he should remain in his slavery. He should not try to change anything. However, should God arrange circumstances which thrust him out of the condition of slavery, he should not fight against such a change and insist on remaining as a slave. Since God has arranged for a change, he should accept it. In either case, his attitude should be that he is one with God. It is important to see this principle of being absolutely one with the Lord in all circumstances, situations, and conditions. If we are mindful of this principle as we read 1 Corinthians 7, we shall see that Paul is utterly one with the Lord and that in his instructions and answers he spontaneously and unconsciously expresses such an absolute spirit. Because Paul had this kind of spirit, he could answer the Corinthians’ questions in a clear and absolute way, in a way that would help them also to become one with God in their situation
10保罗的答覆与婚姻顾问所给的答覆很不相同。婚姻顾问所给的劝勉显示他们是向神独立的,甚至是背叛神的。他们在教导、劝勉并答覆时,是全然离开神的。反之,保罗绝对在神之下,为著神,并与神是一。
10Paul’s answers are very different from those given by marriage counselors. The advice given by marriage counselors reveals that they are independent of God and even rebellious against Him. In their instructions, advice, and answers they are altogether apart from God. Paul, on the contrary, was absolutely under God, for God, and one with God.
11接受我们的环境本章所启示另一个非常要紧的点是:凡是爱主、为著祂、并与祂是一的人,必须愿意接受任何一种环境或情况。例如,弟兄不信的妻子若愿留下,他就该接受这情况。但她若定意离去,他也该接受这环境。
11ACCEPTING OUR CIRCUMSTANCES Another very important point revealed in this chapter is that those who love the Lord, who are for Him, and who are one with Him must be willing to accept any kind of circumstance or situation. For example, if a brother’sun believing wife desires to remain with him, he should accept this situation. But if she decides to leave, he should also accept this circumstance
12我们看见神总是在我们的环境里,这是非常要紧的。我们可以说,环境实际上是化装的神临到我们。表面上我们在某种环境里;实际上那环境是神临到我们,是神与我们同在。在二十四节保罗说,『弟兄们,你们各人是在甚么身分里蒙召,仍要与神一同留在这身分里。』请注意『与神一同』,这辞指明我们接受环境,就是接受神。神在环境里面,也在环境背后。我们再次看见,保罗有一个绝佳的灵,一个服从、知足、且满足的灵。保罗没有抱怨。在他的灵里,他非常服从并满意于他的情况。无论他受到怎样的对待,他总不抱怨。对他而言,每个情况都出于主,他不会发起任何事情改变情况。保罗能说,『对我而言,一切都为我效力,叫我得益处。这就是我不愿改变任何事情的原因。我知道我接受我的环境,就是接受我的神。在每个情况里都有我的神,我所爱、我所完全属于的一位。』在这态度里展现何等绝佳的灵!在林前七章保罗的灵表现于他怎样处理哥林多信徒所问的问题。我们读本章的时候,需要感觉保罗的灵,甚至摸著他的灵。
12It is very important for us to see that God is always in our circumstances. We may say that the circumstances are actually God coming to us in disguise. Apparently we are in a particular circumstance; actually that circumstance is God coming to us and God with us. In verse 24 Paul says, “Each one, brothers, in what state he was called, in this let him remain with God.” Notice the words “with God.” They indicate that when we take our circumstances we take God. Both within the circumstances and behind them, God is present. Once again we see that Paul had an excellent spirit, a spirit which was submissive, content, and satisfied. Paul did not have any complaints. In his spirit he was very submissive and content with his situation. No matter how he was treated, he did not complain. To him, every situation was of the Lord, and he would not initiate anything to change it. Paul could say, “To me, everything works for good. This is the reason I don’t want to change anything. I know that when I take my circumstances, I take my God. In every situation is my God, the One whom I love and the One to whom I belong absolutely.” What an excellent spirit is displayed in this attitude! In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul’s spirit is expressed in the way he deals with the questions asked by the Corinthian believers. When we read this chapter, we need to sense Paul’s spirit and even touch his spirit
13我们回答别人或应对环境的方式,总是指明我们有怎样的灵。假定一位弟兄早晨非常喜乐,他的妻子叫他吃早餐时,他就说,『赞美主!』他的回答显示他的灵。但假定他的妻子叫他时,他的灵很沉重。他的回答也许就很不同,指明他不喜乐。他的反应也许指明他对妻子不高兴,并且他对主有问题。这里的原则是,我们的回答和回应总是表现我们的灵。
13The way we answer others or respond to a situation always indicates the kind of spirit we have. Suppose a brother is very happy in the morning. When his wife calls him for breakfast, he says, “Praise the Lord!” His response reveals his spirit. But suppose his spirit is heavy when his wife calls him. He may respond in a very different way, in a way which indicates that he is not happy. His reaction may indicate that he is unhappy with his wife and that he has a problem with the Lord. The principle here is that our answers and responses always express our spirit
14我宝贵林前七章,主要的不是因著这一章所给的一切答覆,乃是因为本章表达一个人的灵,这个人爱主,关切主在地上的权益,绝对为著主,与主是一,并且在各面都顺从、服从神,满意于神和祂所安排的环境。
14I appreciate 1 Corinthians 7 not primarily for all the answers it gives, but because this chapter conveys the spirit of a person who loves the Lord, who cares for the Lord’sin te rest son earth, who is absolutely for the Lord and one with the Lord, and who in every respect is obedient, submissive, and satisfied with God and the circumstances arranged by Him