10现在让我们把这种领会应用到日常的经历里。假如有一位弟兄四面受压。这样受压、被攻击的人必然会被磨损、销毁。如果你遭遇这样的苦难,你难道不会喊说,『救救我罢!我在被销毁。你们都在磨损我、消耗我。我被你们销毁了。』但这位弟兄以及我们每一个人都知道,树怎样命定要落叶,我们外面的人也照样命定要被销毁。树木的创造者,命定许多种树木要落叶。我们这些基督徒『树』,也都命定要『落叶』。因著我们的定命是要落叶,所以末了总会有些人事物逼得我们非落叶不可。神从来没有意思要我们外面的人长久活著。反之,祂定意要我们的旧人,就是我们外面的人毁坏、被销毁。因此,我们外面之人的定命就是死。你也许活得很久,但是你外面的人终归要死。神没有意思要延长你外面之人的生命。因此,不要求主帮助你保存外面的人,也不要求主拯救你脱离那些正在销毁你的人事物。你应当说,『主,感谢你。这些人事物帮助了我,使我的叶子更早、更快的掉落。主,我愿意合作。我愿意叶子更快的掉落,因为这样我才会更早成熟。主,为著这样的帮助,我赞美你!』主用我们的婚姻生活来销毁我们外面的人。一位青年弟兄结婚以前,也许会梦想他将来要娶怎样的一位姊妹。然后他会去找一位姊妹,好实现他的梦想。照样,青年姊妹也会寻找一位『英雄』作丈夫。所有的青年人对将来的婚姻生活都有一种憧憬。有的人可能从一个地方召会到另一个地方召会,希望找到他们所要选择的弟兄或姊妹。但是,青年人,不论你多聪明,你都无法击败神。祂早已经决定了你婚姻生活的定命。你不需要花费那么多精力寻找你所梦想的妻子或丈夫。你只应当祷告说,『主,你已经决定了我的定命。我不需要到处去找我的配偶。我要作今日的以撒,等候你把命定给我的那位打发到我这里来。』然而,我怀疑大多数的青年人会否照著这个方法去作,或接受这样的话。但是我确信他们结婚几年以后,会敬拜主说,『主,你是主宰一切的。这件事不是出乎我的拣选,乃是出乎你的命定。』
10Let us now apply this understanding to our daily experience. Suppose a brother is afflicted on every side. Surely one who is afflicted, attacked, in this way would be worn out, consumed. If you were the one suffering such affliction, would you not cry out and say, “Please rescue me. I am being consumed. All of you are wearing me out and wasting me away. I am being consumed by you all.” Nevertheless, this brother, along with all of us, needs to realize that just as a tree is destined to lose its leaves, so our destiny is for the outward man to be consumed. The One who created the trees destined that many kinds of trees would drop their leaves. As Christian “trees,” we also have been destined to “drop our leaves.” Because our destiny is to drop our leaves, eventually something or someone will compel us to drop them. God never intended that our outward man would survive such along time. Rather, He has determined that our old man, our outward man, will decay, will be consumed. The destiny, therefore, for our outward man is to die. You may live to be very old, but eventually your outward man will die. It is not God’sin tent i on to prolong the life of your outward man. Therefore, do not cry out for help to preserve your outward man, and do not ask to be rescued from those things or persons who are consuming you. Instead, you should say, “Lord, I thank You. All these persons and things are helping me to drop my leaves earlier and faster. Lord, I want to cooperate. I want to let go of my leaves quicker, for then I shall mature earlier. Lord, I praise You for this help!” The Lord uses our married life to consume our outward man. Before a young brother gets married, he may dream about the kind of sister he will marry. Then he will look for the sister who will be the fulfillment of his dream. Likewise, the young sisters are looking for a “hero” to be their husband. All young people have a dream regarding their future married life. Some may travel from one local church to another hoping to find the brother or sister of their choice. But, young people, no matter how clever you are, you cannot defeat God. He has already determined your destiny regarding married life. There is no need for you to expend so much energy searching for the wife or husband of your dreams. Instead, you should simply pray, “Lord, You have already determined my destiny. I don’t need to travel from place to place, looking for a spouse. I would rather be today’s Isaac, waiting for You to send me the one You have destined for me.” However, it is doubtful that very many young people will follow this way or take this word. But I am certain that after some years of married life, they will worship the Lord and say, “Lord, You are sovereign. It has not been a matter of my choice, but of Your destiny.”