13不要以为我们的处境和保罗不一样,我们在钱财的事上不需要像他那样豫先有准备。只要我们活在这地上,我们无法避免钱财的事。你可以尽力躲开钱财,钱财却会找上你。钱财极为魔鬼利用,圣经说钱财是不义的玛门。但赞美主!到了新耶路撒冷,就不用为钱财挂心了。只是今天我们生活和工作还不能不用牠。因此,我们在处理钱财的事上,必须学习在神和人面前,豫先准备作善美可敬的事,好避免人的挑剔。我们在男女之间的关系上,也要留意。我在别处信息中曾指出,弟兄不该私下与异性长谈。我们可以来看主耶稣的榜样。祂是夜间单独在屋内接见尼哥底母,但祂是在白天公开场合里会见撒玛利亚的妇人。那时主耶稣还是年轻人,才三十岁出头。如果祂夜间单独在房间里接见那位撒玛利亚妇人,祂的门徒可能会想到底发生了甚么事。主耶稣可以把当时的情形向他们解释,但是太迟了,因为门徒对这件事已经有了成见。所以主耶稣怎样接触撒玛利亚妇人,祂已经豫先设想过了。在召会生活中,我们接触到许多人,牵涉到很多事。在这一切的接触和所牵涉的事上,我们要把握一个原则,就是凡事都要豫先有准备,考虑到别人对我们会有怎样的想法。凡事豫先有准备总是智慧的,因为这会保守并保护我们。我们尤其应当在神和人面前豫先准备作善美可敬的事。一个弟兄若和一个姊妹单独相处,这在人面前就不是可敬的事。这样的行为可能不是罪,却不是可敬的。我们所作的每一件事,在主和人面前,都必须是可敬的。我们的主是无所不知的,所以我们豫先准备在人面前作可敬的事,比在主面前作可敬的事更重要。人所知道的,当然没有主知道的多。别人认为我们没有问题是不彀的,我们必须在他们面前行可敬的事。否则,人就不会敬重我们。长老、执事和女执事,更要豫先准备作善美可敬的事。在钱财的事,和异性接触的事,以及其他种种的事上,原则都是一样,就是在神和人面前豫先准备作善美可敬的事。
13We should not think that our situation is different from Paul’sand that we do not need to take the same forethought concerning money. As long as we are on this earth, we cannot avoid matters related to money. You may try to stay away from money, but it will come to you. Money is very much used by the Devil, and the Bible speaks of it as the mammon of unrighteousness. Praise the Lord that in the New Jerusalem there will be no more concern about money! But for the present we cannot live or work without it. Therefore, in handling money we must learn to avoid blame by taking forethought for what is honorable before God and man. We also need to take forethought regarding relationships between males and females. Elsewhere I have pointed out that a brother should not have a long talk with a sister in private. Consider the example of the Lord Jesus. He spoke with Nicodemus alone at night in a house. But when it came to talking with the Samaritan woman, he spoke with her in the open air during the daytime. The Lord Jesus was still a rather young man, not much over thirty years of age. If He had spoken to that Samaritan woman in a room alone at night, the disciples probably would have wondered what was going on. The Lord Jesus could have explained the situation to them, but the explanation would have been too late, for the disciples would have already had thoughts regarding the matter. Therefore, the Lord Jesus took forethought in the way He had contact with the Samaritan woman. In the church life we have contact with many people and are involved with many things. The principle regarding all this contact and involvement is to take forethought about what others may think of us. It is wise always to take forethought, for this will guard and protect us. In particular, we should take forethought to make things honorable in the sight of God and man. If a brother has a long talk with a sister alone in private, that is not honorable in the sight of man. Such behavior may not be sinful; however, it is not honorable. What we do should be honorable both before the Lord and before man. Because the Lord knows everything, it is more important to take forethought for what is honorable before man than for what is honorable before the Lord. Others, of course, do not know all that the Lord knows. It is not sufficient that others think that we have no problem. We need to do what is honorable before them. If we behave ourselves in a way that is not honorable, others will not honor us. The elders, the deacons, and the deaconesses especially need to take forethought for what is honorable. In handling money, in our relationships with those of the opposite sex, and in all other things the principle is the same: take forethought for what is honorable in the sight of God and man.