34照下文看，彼前二章十九节所说到的冤屈之苦，必是指不信的主人所加的苦待，他们因著信主之仆人身上基督徒的见证而反对、逼迫他们。（三14～18，四12～16。）这些经文说到我们基督徒日常生活中的行事为人。基督徒的生活是行事为人的问题。假定我们里面没有神圣的生命，这的确会使家庭生活非常艰难，尤其在与我们的姻亲，特别是与岳母、婆婆的关系上。难得有人渴望自己的岳母与自己并家人同住。同样，已婚的女人不喜欢与婆婆同住。对夫妻而言，岳母和婆婆都会造成为难的情况。为这缘故，按人说，夫妻婚后不与岳母、婆婆同住较好。这里的点乃是，我们若是没有神圣生命的人，无论我们多么彼此相爱，在婚姻生活中仍会面临难处。我们至少会有五个主要的难处：脾气、个性、习惯、背景、和我们领会事情的方式。无论夫妻多么相像，他们之间的脾气、个性、习惯、背景、和领会仍会有所不同。丈夫会有他看事情的方式，妻子也会有她的。同样，妻子会有她的习惯和个性，丈夫也会有他的。所以，因著脾气、个性、习惯、背景、和领会的方式这五个搅扰的因素，他们会有难处。即使夫妻彼此非常相爱，又都是文雅、受过教育的人，情况也是如此。至少有时候他们会发觉情况无法忍受，并会彼此争吵。倘若岳母或婆婆这时候来访，她会发觉情况全然不愉快、不可蒙悦纳。她甚至不愿看见这样不甜美的情况。但假定夫妻都有神圣的生命，并照著这生命而活。尽管在脾气、个性、习惯、背景和领会上有不同，却有恩典在里面推动夫妻二人。不但如此，这恩典彰显在他们的生活中。倘若岳母或婆婆亲眼看见他们的生活方式，她会发觉那是甜美、愉快、并可蒙悦纳的。这就是恩典。
34According to the context, the unjust suffering spoken of in verse 19 must be the mistreatment inflicted by the unbelieving masters. These masters opposed and persecuted their believing servants because of their Christian testimony (1 Pet. 3:14-18; 4:12-16). These verses speak about our behavior in our daily life as Christians. The Christian life is a matter of behavior. Suppose we did not have the divine life within us. This would certainly make family life very difficult, especially in relation to our in - laws, and particularly, to the mother - in - law. It is rare to find a man who desires to have his mother - in - law live with him and his family. Likewise, married women do not like living with their mother-in-law. For both a husband and a wife, a mother-in-law can create a difficult situation. For this reason, humanly speaking, it is better that a married couple not have a mother-in- law live with them. The point here is that if we are those without the divine life, we shall face problems in our married life, no matter how much we may love one another. We shall have at least five major problems: temper, disposition, habit, background, and our way of understanding things. No matter how much alike a husband and a wife may be, there will be differences between them regarding temper, disposition, habit, background, and understanding. The husband will have his way of viewing things, and the wife will have hers. Likewise, the wife will have her habits and disposition, and the husband will have his. Therefore, they will have difficulties with the five troubling factors of temper, disposition, habit, background, and way of understanding. This will be the situation, even if the husband and wife love each other very much and are refined, educated people. Sometimes at least they will find the situation intolerable and will quarrel with one another. If a mother-in-law is visiting at such a time, she will find the situation altogether unpleasant and unacceptable. She would not even want to observe such an ungracious situation. But suppose a husband and wife both have the divine life and live according to this life. In spite of the differences in temper, disposition, habit, background, and understanding, grace inwardly motivates both the husband and the wife. Furthermore, this grace is expressed in their living. If the mother-in-law of either the husband or wife observes their way of living, she will find it gracious, pleasant, and acceptable. This is grace.