3我决定放下职业事奉主不久，就去上海去见倪弟兄。他告诉我，在事奉主的事上，弟兄们必须学习一个原则，就是不私下接触女性，尤其是年轻女性。这话给我深刻的印象，从那时起，我一直实行倪弟兄的指示，也将这些指示传给圣徒们。姊妹们该合宜的穿著，并且遮盖身体。提前二章九节嘱咐姊妹们要『穿著正派合宜，以廉耻、自守，不以编发、黄金、珍珠、或贵价的衣服，妆饰自己』。正派合宜，指适合姊妹们身为神的圣徒所有的性情与地位。穿著，原文含示举止风度。姊妹们的风度，主要显在穿著上，必须适合她们圣徒的地位。廉耻，直译，羞怯，意即受高贵的羞耻感所约束或控制，（Vincent，文生，）含示不轻率卤莽，乃是温和，遵守妇女的礼节。自守，指心思清明、自制、谨慎小心的约束自己。在地方召会中，姊妹们该以廉耻、自守这两种美德作她们的风度，妆饰自己。
3Shortly after I decided to give up my job and serve the Lord, I went to Shanghai to see Brother Nee. He told me that in serving the Lord the brothers must learn the principle of not contacting a female, especially a young one, in private. I was deeply impressed by this, and from that time I have practiced Brother Nee’s instructions and have also passed them on to the saints. The sisters should clothe and cover their body in a proper way. First Timothy 2:9 charges the sisters to “adorn themselves in proper clothing with modesty and sobriety, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly clothing.” The word proper denotes fitting to the sisters’ nature and position as saints of God. In Greek the word for clothing implies deportment, demeanor. A sister’s demeanor, of which clothing is the main sign, must befit her saintly position. The word modesty means, literally, “shamefastness,” denoting being bound or made fast by an honorable shame (Vincent), implying not forward or overbold but moderate, observing the proprieties of womanhood. The word sobriety means “sobermindedness, self - restraint; the restricting of oneself soberly and discreetly.” The sisters in a local church should clothe themselves with these two virtues—shamefastness and self-restraint—as their demeanor.